Love is the Ultimate Renewable Resource
Mar 1st, 2019
Here’s why I think it’s true. The more love you give, the more you have to give. The more you give, the more you get. How is this possible?! There has to be an unlimited supply somewhere. The trick is to figure out a way to tap into it. That’s the secret.
I see it as almost magical that when you’re in a mindset of abundance and your default is love, the world opens up. Momentum shifts. People seem nicer, more patient, helpful. It does seem like it starts to flow in both directions.
I think it’s always been that way. It’s just that when we are feeling scared or doubtful or angry or sad, it’s hard to love and it’s even harder to receive it. We can’t see it. Our field of vision is clouded.
There is a universal principle called The Law of Reciprocity. Every religion speaks of it in one form or another and the secular world calls it ‘The Golden Rule’.
You Get What You Give.
It’s not to say that if you choose to hate you receive hate back. Hate doesn’t always have to be reciprocated. The world would be in a state of absolute chaos if that were the case. Sometimes hate is responded to contrary to the law – with love. How? I think it’s the evolved soul who can rise above and see the hater for who she is – can feel the pain and then sincerely connect through love and kindness rather than react with the same hateful energy.
We all have that potential within us – to respond to negativity with love. You know yourself. You’ve had those moments of connection with a perfect stranger. Helping an elderly person get into a cab, holding the door for someone in a wheelchair, lifting a stroller up and over the curb for a struggling mama, or perhaps pulling an animal out of harm’s way.
That’s the spark. Helping a stranger gets us in the habit of loving others. It opens us up, it starts the fire so that eventually, and for some of you, the Mother Theresas out there, you’ve always been this way – kudos! but for the rest of us, it opens us up to loving the haters when that moment arrives. A much tougher assignment.
I believe we can train ourselves to love and once we do, it opens the tap to the renewable resource that it us. Until we get in the habit of loving, it feels like a rare gem. We feel like there’s not enough, that we have to conserve this precious resource, dole it out with care. That all changes once you tap into it. Like anything else, it takes a bit of work, but it’s so, so worth the effort.
For in that moment, the test that God, god, the universe – however/whoever you connect with (for me, its God) sends, in the form of a difficult colleague, a client, a jerky kid on the street, you’ll be ready. Rather than the heat of the negative emotion sparking a fire, you’ll find you have the capacity to pause, to acknowledge the anger or fear or doubt for what it is. You’ll also see the rapid fire stream of thoughts that quickly follow for exactly what they are. Thoughts. Feelings. Nothing more.
You’ll allow, maybe even with no conscious effort on your part, the time, just a split second, where you surf that wave of emotions and thoughts…and like waves in the ocean, they dissipate. Then before you know it, they’re gone.
So back to the person that sparked the feeling. People say love is a verb. I used to agree. Now I think it’s a state of being and it can be expressed as elegantly with inaction as with action. You may choose to say or do nothing. That choice to do nothing is as profound an expression of love as action might be – choosing to contain yourself, to bite your tongue, to walk away – may be your most generous act of love in that moment.
And the real magic is that, at first, love is an active choice expressed in your outer life – in the physical realm. Through action or inaction. Choosing to act or restrain yourself. Then it eventually becomes your default setting. You just automatically act out of love in your outer life.
Once this happens, I believe it gets reflected back inside of you and you begin to be renewed from within – you’ll just naturally start loving yourself and others more and you’ll feel like it happens almost spontaneously. It doesn’t take the effort you once imagined. When you reach this place, this is where you’re truly tapping into the greatest renewable resource on planet Earth.
I think it takes a lifetime for most of us, myself included, to get to this state of grace. The hope, and my belief, is that every day brings us one step closer and for that, I’m grateful.